Why dream of feeding a child in a dream? Dream Interpretation

Interpretation of the image according to different dream books

By tradition, we will immediately turn to popular dream books, in which you can always find a suitable meaning. And it turns out that some interpreters agree, while others give completely different directions. So, giving birth to a boy in a dream means:

According to the dream book - a large profit.
According to the dream book from A to Z - wealth, comfort of life.
According to the modern universal dream book - devotion, commitment.
According to G. Ivanov’s newest dream book - unexpected troubles that you won’t be able to get away from.
According to the Wanderer’s dream book - a new business, an elusive result, hope.
According to the esoteric dream book, this is an excellent opportunity for self-realization.

A child sleeps only with the breast in his mouth - how does this affect sleep?

At first, all mothers are touched when the newborn sucks sweetly, falling asleep at the same time.
The baby is so calm and happy lying at his mother’s breast! Six months fly by quickly enough, the sweetness of tenderness also dissolves. The mother begins to understand that the child now sleeps only with the breast in his mouth, and the chances of putting him to sleep without feeding are almost zero. My own fatigue has accumulated over six months of sleepless nights and is ready to develop into nervous trembling at the thought that another night marathon of constant feedings lies ahead. The mother feeds, overcoming fatigue, sacrificing her interests for the sake of the child. Are the interests of the child really taken into account in such a situation? Feeding followed by sleep is absolutely justified if the baby is not yet one and a half months old. But from three months on, the sleep structure changes and melatonin . From this point on, the baby's brain cannot reach the deep sleep phase if it is involved in the sucking process.

From six months, the sucking reflex is reorganized into the habit of sucking. Habits can be useful and harmful. Some can make life more pleasant and harmonious, while others can limit freedom and harm health. A person, as a rule, wants to get rid of the latter. We must act in the same direction when talking about the child’s habits.

If the child wakes up between sleep cycles, and he does not yet know how to fall asleep on his own without your help (for example, rocking or breastfeeding), then your task is to teach the baby to fall asleep without your active participation. Try not to do for your child what he can already handle on his own.

Sleeping with breast in mouth

If the baby falls asleep only on the chest, but then is easily transferred to the crib, you don’t have to worry, since there is no discomfort in this situation. Mom and baby can relax and have a good rest. Difficulties arise when the baby's sleep is interrupted immediately after he is torn from the breast. There are different ways to sleep:

separated;
joint;
combined (falling asleep occurs with the mother, the main period of sleep is in one’s own crib).

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Each method has a number of advantages and disadvantages that need to be taken into account. In the case when the child sleeps or falls asleep with the breast, but then easily continues to rest in the crib, then you should not worry. In the first month or two, the sucking reflex is necessary for the baby to practice feeding skills and so that he can feel protected. After the baby reaches 3 months, it is recommended to gradually wean him from falling asleep and resting only with the breast, since it will be difficult to establish a routine further.

If the baby cannot sleep without the breast, then you will have to spend time finding a suitable solution to the problem. It will not be possible to take it away abruptly. In 90% of cases, in the first 1-3 days before falling asleep, the child will cry a lot if you do not give him the usual way to calm him down - the breast. You just need to endure this stage.

Attention! It is necessary to continue breastfeeding during this period, otherwise the child may completely refuse it.

If you just stop breastfeeding before bedtime, then the likely variations in the development of events are as follows:

The baby will long and persistently demand what he wants: cry, reach hysterics. In most cases, parents give up and have to start all over again the next day;
Other relatives are involved in the motion sickness process, as a result, the sleep and wakefulness patterns are disrupted for all family members at once;
The mother makes a firm decision and puts the baby to sleep without breastfeeding. As a result, he falls asleep, but receives psychological and physical stress. It should be borne in mind that the next day you will have to repeat everything from the very beginning.

There is a way out of this situation: the infant should be full at the moment of falling asleep. In this case, he will be in the mood to rest without realizing it, he will not need sucking to calm down and understand that he will be protected.

A pleasant sleep is possible on your own

Important! To create a harmonious environment, you need to find a compromise between the desires expressed by the baby and the correct and quick establishment of sleep and wakefulness.

If your newborn is constantly nursing insistently, this may be a sign that something is bothering him. Before eliminating sucking before falling asleep, you need to figure out what the baby really wants. Children under one year of age perceive the sucking process as a specific defense against uncomfortable sensations or situations that are incomprehensible to them. They require breasts for several reasons:

feel hungry;
there is discomfort (hot, cold, too soft or hard, clothing gets in the way);
there are colic or other problems with the digestive system;
teeth begin to cut.

Also, babies may lack attention and warmth from their mother (she is busy, works a lot, or for other reasons). As a result, the baby tries to make up for the lack of communication. In the case where there are no problems, you need to learn how to fall asleep without a nipple in your mouth.

Advice. If you begin the process of weaning yourself from falling asleep with your breast, you need to prepare for the fact that more than one night will be accompanied by screams.

One simple way to solve the problem is to use a pacifier at night. A pacifier for a child will become a substitute for a nipple, so he will sleep in bed without disturbances and scandals. Negative features of such a solution:

the child does not learn to fall asleep on his own;
the need for something to be present in the mouth remains (if the pacifier falls out, the baby will immediately wake up and start crying);
problems may arise with breastfeeding (continuation or establishment).

You need to choose this method when you can’t wean it off using other methods.

Sleeping next to your mother and brain development

There is an opinion that sucking causes all parts of the brain to become active. Also at the breastfeeding stage, a strong relationship is formed between the baby and mother. In some cases, it is noted that children left in a crib for some time cannot fall asleep for a long time; they require attention from adults. If falling asleep occurs together, then the work of all parts of the brain proceeds harmoniously, since the child is completely calm, he feels harmony and self-care.

Should I feed before bedtime?

If a child constantly sucks at the breast, then the optimal solution for weaning him from falling asleep with her would be pre-feeding. After reaching 6 months, you can already explain to the child that it is time to go to bed. After feeding, you need to develop a ritual that will be interesting to the child. You can sing a lullaby or read a fairy tale. The main task is to switch attention from the chest to something else. To implement the sucking reflex, it is enough to devote 10-15 minutes to this stage, then gently remove the breast and start reading a fairy tale or singing a song.

Children fall asleep well after light stroking, massage or water treatments (optimally in the evening). The main recommendation is to feed your child correctly so that he is full and happy. You also need to communicate and play with him a lot, then much less additional attention will be required.

Feeding before bed is the best way to solve the problem

Ways to calm down

It is impossible to abruptly remove the breast from a child - this is a stressful situation that will be harmful to him. That is why you need to choose a method of distraction and calm. Parents should offer an alternative in advance so as not to encounter whims or hysterics.

The child sleeps only in his arms - what to do?

An option to solve the problem is a pacifier (pacifier) or a bottle. In this case, the child should not receive milk as additional nutrition, as problems with natural feeding may arise. Lullabies and fairy tales, looking at pictures or reading aloud are good options, but they are not immediately perceived by the child and may not be interesting to him.

Must be taken into account! You can’t lay him down directly with the breast; it’s better to let a little time pass between feeding and sleep, about 10-15 minutes, then the baby won’t have a parallel between these two processes.

When a baby uses the breast as a kind of pacifier to calm down and sleep, at first it seems touching, but closer to 5-6 months it becomes a real problem. In this case, you need to prepare a distraction for the baby. He must understand that the breast is a source of food, and sleep can be interesting without it. To do this, parents can develop a simple children's ritual. For example, going to bed listening to quiet music, along with your favorite toy (according to age). If a scandal is a frequent way to achieve what you want, then endurance will help you achieve your goal, since you cannot interrupt the task at hand.

Falling asleep should become an independent stage in the baby’s life. A breast can be replaced by a pacifier if there is no other way to solve the problem. It is best to use other methods so as not to disturb the GW.

When can you try to wean your baby from falling asleep with the breast?

The earliest age when this is acceptable is 6 months. It is best to do it around 9–10 months, when the child has an alternative in his diet and is not completely dependent on breast milk.

At 6 months we start complementary feeding, but only by 9 months does the child reach more or less decent volumes of portions that he can get enough of without breast milk.

From 6–9 months, you can try to practice gradual separation of breast and sleep, under several conditions:

the baby is somatically healthy;
gains weight well;
calm;
eats complementary foods without problems.

How to do it?

How to wean a child from falling asleep with the breast? There are different methods on how to do this.

One of the very effective ways is to separate nutrition and sleep in the child’s understanding. That is, shift the burden of bedtime to dad: he doesn’t smell like mom or milk.

But at the same time, dad is the same dear person, whom the child trusts no less. Dad can be just as affectionate and caring:

Give a feeling of physical contact;
Calm down with rocking, lullaby, stroking;
Or in some other pleasant little way that will not remind you of sucking.

On a note! If the mother, after feeding the baby, hands him over to the father to put him to bed, then after a few days, and perhaps weeks (these periods vary from person to person), the baby will be weaned from the ritual of falling asleep while sucking. And he will learn to find peace in other activities.

This technique is especially effective if the family has rituals for sleep. That is, every evening the same actions are performed with the baby and in the same order.

For example:

bathed;
changed clothes;
fed;
revered;
sent all the toys to bed;
got a massage;
sang a lullaby;
and laid him down.

The set and sequence of such actions are individual. The main thing is that they are performed daily in the same order.

There is another way to wean your baby from falling asleep with the breast.

It consists in the baby gradually getting used to the fact that he is given the breast to suck not so that he falls asleep under it.

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Mom feeds him about half an hour before bedtime, and spends the rest of the time with him, soothing him in other ways:

You can read it;
Sing lullabies;
Get a nice massage;
Pat on the back;
Wiggle.

That is, the baby must learn that he calms down when his mother is next to him, and not because he is suckling her breast. At the same time, if at some point the baby persistently demands feeding, do not refuse him, but also do not let him fall asleep on the chest.

The main thing here is gradualism.

Over time, “rollbacks” back to falling asleep while feeding will occur less and less often.

Important! This method can take up to several months, but teaching a child to fall asleep without breastfeeding can be the least traumatic for the young nervous system.

What can't you do?

It takes time and patience to wean your baby from falling asleep under the breast. Therefore, it is impossible to break down and scold. What else shouldn't you do along the way?

Leaving the baby to fall asleep alone, letting him scream loudly so that he falls asleep from exhaustion. This is a big psychological trauma for a little one.
Smear your breasts with brilliant green, mustard or something else. The baby may be seriously scared.
Wean him off the breast when he is unwell, has a fever, is teething, or is experiencing some kind of stress (mom going to work, moving, going to kindergarten).
Continue weaning when the baby shows clear signs that this is serious stress for him:

Bites;
Fights;
Scratched;
Thumb sucking;
Became nervous, moody, or withdrawn.

Causes

The main reason that a newborn falls asleep during feeding is that the child is tired. Breast and bottle sucking is not easy. When extracting milk from a container, and especially from the mother’s titi, the baby must work hard. As a result, the desire to rest wins, and the baby falls asleep soundly without being fully fed.

In addition to fatigue, there are several other reasons for sleep at a crucial moment of eating:

Satiety

The child does not want to eat. This phenomenon occurs when the baby is not fed according to schedule or is given a bottle at every cry or the slightest manifestation of dissatisfaction.

Excessive or difficult flow of milk from the breast

When food flows into the mouth without effort on the part of the newborn, the baby quickly eats his fill and falls asleep. In this case, mother does not need to worry at all. Another thing is that if a woman in labor has little breast milk, it is difficult for the baby to get it. In this case, the baby falls asleep from fatigue.

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Weak sucking reflex

It is observed in children born prematurely or during rapid labor in the first weeks of life. After 10–14 days of training the facial muscles, the situation will stabilize.

The baby does not latch onto the nipple correctly

As a result, milk is not “milked” in a normal rhythm, the baby gets tired and goes to sleep to recuperate.

Disease

Poor health affects the child’s appetite and activity.

On a note! Weak, premature babies quickly fall asleep near the chest, even with a strong feeling of hunger. They do not have enough strength to suck the milk completely.