Possible causes of dreams
Cheating in real life is a serious stress for a loving person. If a person whom they trust and believe betrays, then it is always very difficult to survive. This situation brings disappointment, pain and suffering. And it’s not always possible to preserve love and family, even if it’s not cheating, but just a kiss with another man. But this is in real life, and there are situations when a wife kisses another in a dream. How to relate to such a dream and how to react to it? After all, an unpleasant dream does not always carry a negative meaning.
It is known that dreams, to a certain extent, are a reflection of desires and aspirations, but not only that. It is also a manifestation of apprehensions and fears. It is such visions that, as a rule, are the most vivid and memorable. In some cases, disturbing dreams may recur from night to night. If dreams about your wife kissing another man are frequent and disturbing, then you need to understand the reasons for these visions. For example:
- Subconscious fear that a similar situation could happen in reality. This does not mean that the husband really suspects his wife of cheating. We are talking specifically about subconscious fear. And this anxiety is reflected at night in visions where the wife kisses a stranger.
- Fear of losing the woman you love and banal jealousy. This is especially true if frequent quarrels and conflicts have recently begun to arise in the family.
- The mood and behavior of the wife is also of no small importance. After all, if she is depressed, often sad, and leaves home for a long time, then the man begins to think about the reasons for what is happening.
The influence on the occurrence of night visions about the presence of another man’s wife in the life can also come from outside. When someone outsider tells her husband about the possible betrayal of his wife, even if he did not believe it, then doubts will creep into his soul in any case. They can be reflected at night, and then such a dream will occur. In this case, the wife kisses another man exclusively in a dream.
Requests for help Write your story I accidentally caught my wife kissing someone else in the car. And then, instead of apologies, there are complaints that I don’t earn enough (although I earn well, and I work alone), that I don’t have a home on the Cote d’Azur, and that it’s generally not interesting to be with me. There is no strength to live, even to get up in the morning. One thought is to end my short conversation with life. The only thing that is still holding is a small child.
Alexey, age: 39 / 10/21/2019
Responses:
Hello Alexey, what you experienced was a huge pain. But, unfortunately, people find themselves in this situation more and more often. You are not the first and you will not be the last. Death will give you nothing. There is no death, you will only kill the body, but your soul will suffer forever. You have a small son and he needs a father. Imagine what will happen to him. He will not be able to love his mother, because... Because of her actions, her father committed suicide. Will he be able to forgive you, thinking that you are a weak person? At some point he will be left alone with his problems, do not leave your son. Even if you and your wife divorce, he will know that there is a dad somewhere who can help. You have several ways out of this situation. First of all, accept what is in your life, it happened and you cannot change it. There are two people to blame for all family problems. Think about why this happened. Once there was love, for some reason you got married. You can forgive betrayal if your mental strength is enough. Think about what you did wrong. You can't change your wife, but you can change yourself. Watch the movie Fireproof. It shows a pre-divorce situation. Check out the courses and books on this site. There are some that will be just right for your problem. If the situation of divorce is inevitable, dialogue with the wife is necessary. You will need a lot of mental strength, because you have a son. For now, his interests must come first. Don't be discouraged, happiness in life is still possible!
Natalya, age: 30 / 10/21/2019
Alexey, hello! It’s very painful when loved ones betray you, it’s a pity that you found yourself in such a situation! But this is not a reason to leave life because of a woman who is “confused” and does not know what she is doing. We are all human, we all make mistakes. She thinks so now, and when she loses her family and faces real problems: loneliness, betrayal, she will understand that she was wrong. Please be lenient with yourself and with her. Well, women are stupid. It is clear that it is both offensive and disgusting! But you have a child and yourself. Decide to leave her, life will not end. There are many single beautiful women in the world who can love and appreciate. And being alone is not bad, especially since you are not alone, you have a child! You need to get over it. Take a break, don’t make sudden conclusions. Hold on! No one is safe from betrayal, especially in the modern world, where true values: family and love, are replaced by imaginary and artificial ones. Hold on!
Irina, age: 32 / 10/21/2019
Alexey, the absence of a house on the Cote d'Azur is not at all an indicator of your insolvency. Some people dream of a one-room apartment. Under no circumstances should you have a complex about this. And your wife, in my opinion, went too far with her desires. To put it mildly. Claims are a defense. It’s easier to blame your husband than to admit your guilt. Pray to God, ask him to help your wife make the right choice. Don't take your own life. The death of a father and the sudden appearance of another “dad” in your son’s life will be a huge stress for him and may result in mental disorders in the future.
Maria, age: 24 / 10/22/2019
Hello. Yes, in our time a common cause of dissatisfaction is low wages. But of course this is not a reason to destroy a family or seek joy on the side. You know, there is a good article on the Internet called “If you want to get married. 19 tips from Bishop Panteleimon (Shatov)”, print it out and give it to your wife to read; if there is a possibility of lightning aggression, then you can carefully put the article on the coffee table so that she can read it in privacy. There is just a section dedicated to saving, how to properly distribute the budget, and in general a lot of useful information. Try to save your family, you still have a baby. Good and peace to you.
Irina, age: 31/10/22/2019
Alexey, it’s scary to imagine what happened to you. But we need to move on with our lives. Sit down with your wife in the evening and talk about your family. Does she want to keep it? Is this what you want? If you have even a little desire and hope, then fight for your family. How exactly, I’ll be honest, I don’t know. But one thing is certain: to destroy is not to build. Half the battle depends on your wife's mood. Why doesn't your spouse work? Is she on maternity leave? The family budget is a common matter in our time.
Maria, age: 30 / 10/23/2019
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Possible reasons for dreams
There are three main reasons why dreams with kisses occur:
- A dream where an ex-wife kisses another man can occur if a man cannot come to terms with separation and divorce. He still considers his ex-wife to be his woman and is jealous of her.
- If a man feels insecure and feels helpless, this is reflected in family relationships. This is where night visions arise that the spouse may prefer another man.
- Cheating on your wife in a dream is not at all proof that cheating exists in reality. However, this may be a sign that the spouse himself is ready to cheat and transfers his desires to suspicions towards his wife.
When a man wakes up in the morning after such a dream, he usually experiences negative emotions. Is this justified? A vision of a wife’s kiss does not always lead to negative consequences.
Is a kiss on the lips considered cheating?
A kiss on the lips is more intimate than just a kiss on the cheek. Such a manifestation can indicate not only interest in a person, but also deeper feelings. Therefore, most people consider a kiss on the lips to be cheating.
Kiss someone else without desire
Often, a trip to a nightclub or a noisy party with friends ends with an accidental kiss, which occurred spontaneously and without attraction to another man. Your curiosity has been satisfied, so move on from kissing another person, forgive yourself and be more careful in the future.
Kissing someone while drunk
Alcohol clouds the brain and perception of the world around us, so a situation where a young lady kissed another guy in a relationship and is tormented by her conscience is far from uncommon. It is unlikely that a drunken kiss will cause your partner to break off the relationship, but do not be surprised that you will be asked to promise not to go to unaccompanied gatherings with friends and not to abuse alcoholic beverages.
The only point that requires special attention is whether your boyfriend’s acquaintances could have seen the drunken kiss. If the answer is positive, the situation may not turn out in the girl’s favor: few young people would be willing to endure ridicule from their friends.
Conscious kiss with passion
So we came to the moment when a girl kissed another guy in a relationship and realized that the kiss caused a special thrill. It turns out that your platonic feelings for a certain young man have grown into an emotional connection, and only certain circumstances keep you from real betrayal.
Mentally, you are already in bed with another man who is attractive, but not yet ready to go through with it. Try to face the truth and understand whether you need your current relationship or whether you should switch to the object of passion.
Forced kiss
An unpleasant incident that can happen in a girl’s life is violence against her. A forced kiss should not make you feel guilty, because here you have the unpleasant role of the victim. We recommend that you avoid the person who kissed you against your will in the future, in order to prevent more unpleasant consequences from occurring.
Bad or good sign
A dream can serve as a warning that not all is well in the family, and problems and difficulties may arise. This means that it is possible to take measures to prevent them or solve them as quickly as possible .
On the other hand, if you pay attention to dream books, many of them agree that a dream about your wife cheating on you means receiving unexpected good news and even financial profit. Therefore, if you had a dream where a wife kisses another man, you should not get upset prematurely. You need to remember the details of the dream and figure out what exactly it foreshadowed.
Who dreamed with his wife
It is necessary to pay attention to who exactly the spouse kissed in the dream. This can change the meaning dramatically. For example, if your significant other cheats with a neighbor, then most likely the sleeping person has an arrogant character. It’s worth trying to change your disposition at least a little so that this doesn’t actually happen. But if your wife kisses a famous, handsome man, then you can prepare for an interesting and memorable trip.
Oddly enough, if a wife kisses a homeless man, then the mother-in-law will soon invite him to visit. And let the man decide for himself what will upset him more - his wife’s behavior in the dream or the proposal he receives.
Every man's worst nightmare is his wife betraying his best friend. If he did dream, then the husband needs to take care to devote more time and attention to his other half.
Night visions are also likely, where a kiss and betrayal of a spouse occur with relatives - brother, father. It's actually not nearly as scary as it really is. If a wife kisses her brother, then in reality the husband can count on the support of this relative. And if the husband wants his relatives to come to visit, then a dream about his wife cheating on his father will come in handy.
When a man has low self-esteem, he is not confident in himself and his wife’s attitude towards him, in which case he may have a dream with his wife kissing a stranger. In addition, you may have a dream where a kiss takes place with your husband’s worst enemy, and this is a very bad sign.
The most unpleasant option is a kiss between a wife and a young man. As a rule, this foreshadows separation and breakdown of relationships. Most likely, a conflict situation in the family has already matured, but the man simply ignores it. And this can lead to very negative consequences .
In some cases, you dream that spouses are kissing. If you dream of kissing your wife, this is a good sign. As a rule, it indicates that the family has strong relationships, and even during sleep the husband does not think about cheating.
“The Happiest”: Sumishevsky, who buried his wife, was filmed kissing a beauty
At the beginning of February, singer Yaroslav Sumishevsky experienced terrible grief. The artist buried his beloved wife Natalya. A young woman died in an accident while her husband was on tour.
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Doctors tried to save Natalya for several days, but her injuries turned out to be incompatible with life. Sumishevsky was also with his wife at the time of the accident, but he escaped with bruises and abrasions. Natalya has a son, who is now being raised by Yaroslav. At first, Sumishevsky shared his pain with fans and dedicated poems to his departed wife. But he gradually threw himself into his work, going on a tour around the country.
Despite the restrictions imposed in the regions, the singer has already traveled almost all of Russia. On October 18, on his 38th birthday, he gave a concert in Kurgan. After the performance, Yaroslav was in for a surprise - a real party with cake, balloons and even fireworks.
His eldest daughter Ksyusha, who grew up to be a real beauty, also came to congratulate Sumishevsky. The girl handed her father a small box with a gift, hugged him tenderly and kissed him. “I love you very much,” Ksyusha turned to her dad. This touching moment was filmed, which the artist himself shared on the Internet.
“Thank you all very much for your congratulations and gifts. This birthday was unforgettable,” Sumishevsky captioned the footage.
“She flew to heaven”: Yaroslav Sumishevsky told how the children perceived their mother’s death
The artist recalls that informing children about the tragedy was one of the most difficult tests. Sumishevsky admits that he still cannot fully believe what happened, and only creativity helps him cope.
Fans joined in the congratulations, wishing the artist all the best. “Yaroslavushka, thank you so much for your creativity, for your soul, huge heart and boundless love for all of us! We love you with all our hearts, we hug you with the whole world!” “And the cake is from the tip of a knife... Yaroslav, you are a big child and a very good person, I am 100% sure of this.” “You are a very approachable and down-to-earth person, Yaroslav! I’ve been watching your path to the stage for probably three years now,” “The happiest!” “Happy Birthday, Yaroslav! Let your achievements please you, your health improve, and your family and friends will always be near you!” — Netizens wrote in the comments to the artist’s post.
Let us recall that Yaroslav Sumishevsky explained his decision to go on tour after the death of his wife by the desire not to upset his late lover, because, according to him, Natalya would not have approved of such a cowardly and senseless act.
Alena Nesterova
Yaroslav Sumishevsky
Interpretation from dream books
According to Tsvetkov’s dream book, betrayal in a dream is a very bad omen. It can be a harbinger of material damage, serious illness, theft, fire or other similar incident.
According to Miller, a dream where there is betrayal on the part of the spouse is a definite warning about possible danger. But this danger is not associated with the other half. After such a night vision, you need to be more attentive to your affairs and be wary of people you know. This is quite an alarming sign for the sleeper .
If dreams about your wife kissing another man bother your husband, then first of all you should talk frankly with your wife. First of all, to make sure that there are no reasons for jealousy.
Dreams carry different symbolism; they are formed depending on a variety of emotions and life situations. Therefore, any interpretation of dreams should be treated with a certain degree of skepticism and not worry, but simply be more attentive to your other half and to yourself.
What to do if you kissed another guy
To fully understand whether you have crossed the boundaries of what is permitted, conduct a small experiment: imagine a situation where your partner kisses not you, but another girl. If this picture evokes a number of negative emotions (sadness, shock, anger, desire for revenge), then in your case the answer is obvious.
Focusing on your emotions and thoughts, as well as the character of the young man, think about whether it is worth confessing what happened.
Tell the truth or remain silent
In any relationship between lovers, an unspoken agreement arises, where betrayal is its violation. Even in the case when a loved one kissed another guy in a drunken relationship, a significant blow will be dealt to the partner’s self-esteem, but attempts to hide the truth and fear of the consequences will have a bad effect on the relationship and will lead to a breakup.
Whether to tell it or not is up to you, we will only note that the regret, confusion of a girl who kissed another guy in a relationship, her conscience torments her - an explosive cocktail, and no one can answer how such a burden on the soul will turn out.
Relationships between a guy and a girl are not immune to troubles, but if a couple in love has deep feelings for each other, they will be able to cope with an accidental physical connection on the side.
